What does “mental health” mean to you?

mental health awareness

When you hear the term “mental health issues”, what do you think of? Do you think of depressed people lying in bed, do you think of yourself and that maybe somewhere deep down it rings true for you, does it sadden you, does it not even bother you?

For me the important thing isn’t just to think of mental health as being “depressed”, as it’s so much more than that. You may not agree, but I think every single one of us goes through some kind of mental health issue at some point in our lives, whether we acknowledge it or not, whether it’s big or small. There are times that we question who we are, what we’re doing and how much we like the person we’re becoming.

No matter how big or small, the important thing is that we talk about it, so that the people amongst us (including myself once upon a time) who are going through the harder times, know that they are not alone. Even though there is still a stigma attached to it and in ways it’s still a taboo subject, I do think we’re so much more open now compared to eight years ago when I was struggling. Maybe that’s because I’ve worked through a lot of issues and am happy to talk about my experiences now.

For those of you wanting to know about my personal journey, you can read about part of it here, where I go into detail about my struggles with eating disorders and depression – Cat Meffan Bulimia Journey. And you can also read my post about dealing with anxiety issues.

I saw an Instagram poem put up by Charlotte from Georgie Shore and I love the words. Here’s what it said:

You are not your age,
Nor the size of the clothes you wear,
You are not a weight,
Or the colour of your hair,
You are not your name,
Or the dimples in your cheeks,
You are all the books you read,
And all the words that you speak,
You are your croaky morning voice,
And the smiles you try to hide,
You’re the sweetness in your laughter,
And every tear you’ve cried,
You’re the songs you sing so loudly,
When you know you’re alone,
You’re the places you’ve been to,
And the one that you call home,
You’re the things that you believe in,
And the people that you love,
You’re the photos in your bedroom,
And the future you dream of,
You’re made of so much beauty,
But it seems that you forgot,
When you decided that your were defined,
By all the things you’re not.

Maybe these are just random words to some people, chosen because the rhyme, but to me they really hit my emotions, so I wanted to share them with you. If they make just one person smile for just one second, or just to think about the possibility of changing their mindset towards a more positive future, then writing them here was more than worthwhile.

Love, Cat x



  1. October 23, 2016 / 7:45 pm

    I totally agree that we all go through some kind of MH issue at some point in our lives. Growing up I was bullied (a lot) and I still carry the same crippling lack of self confidence that I developed because of this. I beat myself up all the time over the smallest things, I struggle to let go of things and over analyse everything, I never feel worthy of anything I achieve, earn or attract into my life and have a bad habit of feeling guilty.

    I’m in my 30s now and have been free of the bullies for almost 15 years, but I’m still wary of new people and situations BUT I now feel as though I can tackle things head on and ready to start moving on.

    Great post

    Emma | HarmonyBlaze.co.uk

    • cmeffan
      October 26, 2016 / 9:10 am

      Emma, thank you so much for such an honest comment. I think it’s amazing to see so many people talking about these kinds of issues. So amazing to hear that you’ve come so far in your journey already and are ready to take the next steps. Thank you again. xx

  2. Alice
    October 18, 2016 / 1:01 pm

    Hi Cat

    I have been going through a really horrible bout of vertigo for the last five weeks which I think has been brought on by stress and anxiety. I have had it before but not as bad as this. It has certainly been made worse by me getting very panicky that it will never go. I had some small relief from it the other day when I did your slow flow tutorial. It is really beautiful and you move so gracefully and calm-inducingly (don’t think that’s a word).

    Anyway, thank you and thank you for this post. It does help knowing that I am not alone.

    Alice xx

    • cmeffan
      October 20, 2016 / 9:03 am

      Hi Alice,
      Thanks for your comment and email. Sorry to hear that you’re going through a bad patch, but it’s great that you’re doing yoga and are finding a little release from the struggles there. Have you tried mediation or just working on some breathing techniques? They can be very helpful.
      Wishing you the best and sending hugs via the internet!
      Cat xx

      • Alice
        October 29, 2016 / 10:22 am

        Thanks Cat,

        I really appreciate that. Yes I think just focussing on actually breathing can really help. I will try some meditation too.

        Thanks again.

        Alice xx

        • cmeffan
          November 3, 2016 / 5:11 pm

          Hi Alice,
          Sometimes it’s the most simple and small things that can help us in the biggest way.
          :) x

  3. emily
    October 14, 2016 / 9:38 pm

    So true…don’t think about what you’re not and don’t think about what you don’t have.

  4. Toby Costar
    October 12, 2016 / 6:03 pm

    This is a great blog Cat, thank you for sharing it.

  5. Noel
    October 12, 2016 / 2:48 pm

    Txs for sharing I love this. Be well my friend.

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