Why It’s OK to Take a Step Backwards

healthy body image

I recently posted the photo above on my Instagram page and was totally overwhelmed with the comments from my amazing followers. Some were words of love and encouragement, which meant so much to me and others were people sharing their own healthy body image journey with me, having a similar problem by having a little blip in their wellness journey.

I just want to make an even bigger point by writing this blog post that it’s OK to take a step back. Every single one of us does it from time to time, whether or not some people chose to share it on social media, that’s up to them, but it’s only human for us to stumble. And I’m not necessarily just referring to wellness, this can relate to many journeys in life.

Life isn’t about having to live by some kind of strict routine and beating yourself up if you slip out of it. Life is about creating memories and living through experiences with people you love, doing the things you love. So what I’m trying to say is that if Summer time means that you spend more time at BBQs with friends or more time on the beach with an ice cream then that’s OK, as long as you’re happy in that moment.

Balance is a word we constantly hear, and let’s face it, we might not ever get the ‘perfect’ balance, what even is that? But if we make sure we live life to the fullest whilst smiling as we go and taking care of what our bodies are in need of on the inside, then we might just be ok! Easier said than done of course, especially when trying to focus on the inside, rather than the exterior appearance. I know that for a fact, as I’m someone who is constantly working through a battle with my appearance, but that doesn’t mean I’ll give up on what my mind, soul and internal body needs. I will continue to learn more about myself, why I am the way I am, who I want to be, what I want to do in the future and if that means I need a bag of peanut m&ms to get me through it, then I’ll have it and I will not feel guilty for it.

A few days ago I feel like I had a bit of a breakthrough with my diet and healthy body image and all it took was for me to actually take pen to paper and see the vicious cycle of events written down before my eyes. I hugely recommend trying to look at patterns in your life and why you think you could be taking these steps back. Once you are aware of the problem, you’re half way there to finding a solution. Writing things down massively helped me, so you never know, it might help you too.

Maybe me writing about looking inwards rather that what’s on the outside is a bit contradictory considering the transformation image I’ve posted, but it’s all a journey and right now the body I have isn’t one that is making me 100% happy, as I know my insides aren’t happy with the sugary treats, so the inside/outside stuff is very connected.

Hopefully some of you can relate to this and are on your way to taking many steps forwards to a healthy body image, like I am.

Love, Cat x 



  1. Aleisha
    June 16, 2017 / 7:36 pm

    Hey!! Sorry I know this post is from a while ago but this really relates to me now. At the beginning of the year I was so motivated and within a month of a healthy diet and exercising I was so happy with how I looked and felt. Recently I have taken a step back, life got in the way and I lost motivation. This shows in my body and my skin, I have put on weight and my skin doesn’t look healthy. I began to feel very annoyed at myself for letting myself go but then I realised how quick it took me to do it in the first place. I know I can get back to it, I just need to be postive and have motivation. I love the idea of reviewing things, writing them down so they are in front of you. I really enjoyed reading this post!! Although I have taken a break I am starting again. I have a blog to follow my fitness journey and keep me on track, it would mean so much if you would check it out and maybe leave some advice!!

    Thanks, Aleisha xx


    • cmeffan
      August 14, 2017 / 7:24 am

      Hey Aleisha, I think the post relates to most of us at some point each month! At least I know it does for me. Always have great weeks and then the odd day where things get a little stuck. I really hope the writing works for you and you enjoy starting again. Just remember to not be too hard on yourself. We’re only human! 😉 xx

  2. Clare
    September 23, 2016 / 12:12 am

    Cat! I’ve been watching your videos over the last couple of days, I love how real you are!

    I’m in this horrible phase of binge eating, restricting, then binging again and I have no idea how to step out of it. It’s especially bad when I’m left alone at home, and when I allow myself to have alcohol. So I suppose I’m recognising some triggers here but can you speak a little more about how you wrote these things and down and realised the vicious cycle, and the steps you’re taking to break it? I’m at a loss :'(

  3. Erin
    September 15, 2016 / 10:18 pm

    Hiya cat, I really loved this and respect you so much for all your honesty! You look amazing and ultra fit though as ever! I know I could tone up more but I sometimes feel like I don’t have the motivation to stop eating snacks like raw bars and popcorn and lots of peanut butter – silly I know. When you say you wrote stuff done, what kind of thing was it sorry? Is it like what you ate and then you noticed? Thank you xx

    • cmeffan
      September 21, 2016 / 1:26 am

      Hey Erin,
      The stuff I wrote down was more based around mental/emotional patterns I was noticing. Like what happens when I eat said treat, or how many feelings are when I look in the mirror, trying to figure out the vicious cycle of events. Once I found the awareness with some bits, I was able to work backwards to hopefully change my reaction or the outcome. Hope that makes sense. I’m doing a lot of self study work at the moment, which is where this method has stemmed from.
      Cat x

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